The dating topic is probably one of the most interesting ones when you are an expat. We all know that the realities of dating abroad are more difficult than they might seem, and on top of that the COVID-19 situation does not help. So, if you are fully experiencing these right now, this article is for you!
In this first article we will talk about the 1st type: An expat moving abroad single and alone. This one is probably one of the most common cases!
To date or not to date, that’s the question!
You are having fun and you love your new adopted city, your friends, your work, and your lifestyle. But, at the same time, you see your friends back home getting engaged, moving together, having kids, while you just picture yourself at the bar with a bunch of friends sipping your 3rd Margarita. (ok that was before COVID but it works as well with your friends at home) 😉 You are now facing the loneliness feeling as you start wondering about your situation. And it’s a NORMAL feeling, don’t worry!
So you might start using some dating apps such as Bumble, Tinder, Hinge.. or by coming to our networking events Apéros Frenchies hoping to have a crush on someone! (Yes we know!)
And it happens! Sometimes it comes fast, sometimes it takes time. But the struggle goes on when this person is from another country especially.. your crush doesn’t have the same “dating language” as you… and C’est la catastrophe!
Perhaps, we learn at school how to speak another foreign language but we don’t’ learn how to speak another foreign heart language! And especially this lockdown situation pretty much everywhere, it doesn’t make things easier, since restaurants and bars are closed!
“How does it work? Do we have to meet for dinner or an ice cream? Do we have to play it fancy or cool? Should we invite them to our place?“
Bref, so many questions that nobody really knows how to answer but that we all ask ourselves before even trying out the relationship!
After a few texts you will more or less understand what your crush is feeling! She/He wants to meet you at her/his place but you don’t feel confident enough, just say it and offer him/her to grab a take away coffee downtown.
Another situation: you feel like inviting him/ her to your place and this other person sounds up for it. Parfait! As a french person I would obviously advise to have some good wine in your cellar/fridge 😉 But also.. to prepare a casual nice dinner sans pretention. In case the date goes well! For example, try HelloFresh :You pick in advance which menu you want to receive depending on what you like .. and they deliver all the ingredients + recipe at your place! It’s perfect when you are in a rush or if there is a curfew! 😉
If you are freaking out to meet with this person alone, and you prefer to be in your comfort zone with friends, what about inviting this person for some drinks in a park with your friends, or do some hiking somewhere with them too? Honestly possibilities are limited right now but there are still some! If it goes well, you‘ll feel safer and better to meet in person the next time, plus you may get your friends’ approval (which is not THE most important, but still, it matters!) If it goes wrong, it would be just a funny memory you’ll talk about with your friends in the future! 😉
In conclusion, follow your instinct, go with the flow and don’t pretend to be someone you are not just because you’re afraid they don’t like you. One day they will figure it out anyway! Good luck!
The expat blues are probably at the epicenter of peoples worries when moving abroad. However, at least in our opinion, this is still seen as a taboo that nobody really wants to bring up. As usual, Apéros Frenchies has your back! today, I decided to share some top tips with you guys based on my experience regarding this incredible but also not easy journey of being an expat. Hopefully these tips to handles those expat blues will help you to get through this difficult time!
We often move to a new country by ourselves and most often for a job opportunity. We say goodbye to our family, our friends and we jump into a new adventure not knowing exactly how long it will last. But keep in mind that this is an exciting feeling and that’s the reason why we are doing it after all, embrace the adventure and keep in mind that expat blues is part of the journey!
1 – Open your heart to a new relationship
Have you ever noticed that people are usually more open minded in your new adopted country than back home? The expat syndrome is contagious!
When we live abroad, we usually leave everyone behind and start a new life. We don’t have our family, our best mates or ex classmates to hang out with anymore. It’s hard to socialise and make real connections. So, if you don’t take this opportunity to open your heart to unknown people, you can possibly end up by yourself at home feeling this expat blues. (And this is probably not what you are looking for! 😉
Why not go for some drinks with your colleagues afterwork and take this opportunity to build relationships. You can break the ice by asking some simple questions such as if they already lived abroad or moved to another city. It helps to break the ice and maybe you will find some common points to chat about. The main thing is that you put yourself out there and make an effort, trust me, you won’t regret it! Who knows, maybe you will meet your best mate or long-time partner in the process 🙂
2 – Try to socialise as much as possible
Yes, I know, it’s easy to say and especially during this lockdown time where we’d rather be tucked up and cosy at home.. but don’t be lazy, take this chance and remember that we always meet people for a reason! Why not ask this easy-going friend to go for a walk / run or to grab a coffee outside and tell him/her to bring a friend or two?
Never underestimate this spontaneous catch up, because sometimes that is how you make the best – unexpected – connections! By the way, we often say in French “Les amis de mes amis sont mes amis” (My friends’ friends are my friends). Get it?
3 – Use social networks
I have seen many times in the different countries/cities I have livedin, people posting in expat groups asking to meet new friends. It takes courage to do it, but I am pretty sure that most of them met some cool people to hang out with or good friends, you have nothing to lose!
Don’t be ashamed to ask, there is absolutely no shame in this! we all went through it and most people would appreciate it because they are probably feeling the same way but are too afraid to take the initiative!
Even though I personally don’t use Facebook that much anymore it is a great network to share these kind of experiences and to join expat groups in your new city (or just our Apéros Frenchies’ page 😉 )
4 – Exercise the language part of your brain!
What’s worse than living in a country where we don’t speak the language? Living in our bubble doesn’t help much either when trying to integrate! Although some languages can be more attractive than others, you really have to force yourself to learn. Believe me, I’ve been living in Germany long enough without speaking German to understand the struggle. 😉 It took me almost 3 years to start pushing myself to learn. I personally used an online platform : Babbel and I would recommend it to everyone. It’s easy, playful, and best of all, at your fingertips, online! It really helped me to warm to German and broke down lots of barriers to the language! ;’)
5 – Organise small events at home
Due to the pandemic, the restrictions are different depending on the country you live in. However, if we cannot meet in restaurants or bars, generally you are still allowed to invite friends over (check the restrictions regarding your country).
I realized that despite this lack of social life/ crazy nights, we’ve been forced to focus on what’s real and it is important. Yes, Friday night fever is cool but what about a nice diner and good wine at home with great people? You can have some good chats, and even learn new things about your friends, such as musical ability!
For instance, it might be a nice idea to prepare a special dish from your country so that your friends can also try something new, this is the core of expat life and experience! Friends are always happy to discover new cultures! Also, don’t hesitate to check out our article Apéro at Home – Plan the Perfect Apéro! If, you are running out of time, we definitely advise you to have a look at this website! HelloFresh delivers great recipes and fresh ingredients to your home each week!
Don’t worry, if cooking is not one of your best skills, you can still order food from your local restaurant using the handy app and keep it easy!
Anyway, use this opportunity to ask friends about their feelings and how they handle their expat blues. You’d be surprised when you ask this question that you won’t be the only one who has mixed feelings! 😉
6 – Zoom Apéro from Apéros Frenchies
You probably know about us because you’ve been to our networking events, right? Or maybe someone told you to come! I will soon talk soon about the reasons that drove me to build Apéros Frenchies and organise those events. However, unfortunately, we cannot organise events right now but some of you asked us about some digital Apéros to connect all of you guys!
We have already done it a few times and we had a lot of fun! Let us know it is something you would like to do again!
BONUS Treat yourself! (One of my personal favourites)
Who said we couldn’t buy happiness? It’s true that happiness does not comprise of an online order, but it can contribute! (Raise your hand if you agree!)
By the way, maybe you already checked it out before, but we have also written an article about our favourite products to buy especially tailored to a busy expat lifestyle!
Also, if like me, you crave delicious French chocolate, I can give you a tip, you can definitely buy a bit of happiness here! (That’s my personal secret but don’t shout it too loud!)
That’s it for today guys! I hope I helped you a bit regarding your expat journey with these top tips to handle these expat blues. Please, don’t hesitate to comment on our Facebook post if you have other ideas to share or would like to find out more and don’t forget to follow our Instagram page too!
Remember: You mum always told you “don’t talk to strangers!” ? BREAK THE RULES!
Tired of not traveling and can’t bare to spend one more weekend in your city? It’s time to explore the country, guys! Discover Cologne from a new perspective. Experience the city from an URBAN LOFT point of view, entailing art, food, drink, music, and most of all, fun!
A few weeks ago, we were traveling around Cologne. We were curious to discover this new design & young concept from Amaron group: Urban Loft Cologne. Co-working space by day, hotel by night, it is located just few minutes away from the central station, which is perfect when you arrive by train it also offers all the facilities to visit the city.
With young friendly and really welcoming staff, we felt at home as soon as we arrived!
Art connoisseur? You would love their exhibitions from the bottom to the top! Every room is meticulously decorated with paintwork from local and international artists.
Rooftop lovers? Have a drink and relax on the terrace. Don’t take our word for it, experience it yourself.
Sports addict? Don’t worry, this place have a nice, furnished gym where you can work out at anytime and detox from the previous night out 😉
As we say “après l’effort le réconfort” make sure you enjoy the unconventional breakfast to kick off a new adventurous day in Cologne.
NB: All the products served or offered at this hotel, are eco and made locally in Cologne!
Book your trip to Urban Loft Cologne with Trainline and save time and money!
Cocktails lovers? Check out the Little Link, a speakeasy cocktail bar which appeals greatly to mixologist buffs.Delicious drinks, tranquille atmosphere & efficient bartenders!
The Gerbermüle is part of the city’s heritage and is probably one of the most atypic hotels in Frankfurt.Just by the main river,it is surrounded with a large,beautiful and very traditional German Beer Garden. However, from the outside, you might never guess the fully refurbished and creatively designed interior. Take a breather – discover the Gerbermühle hotel & restaurant.
RESTAURANT & DRINK
Ifyou are looking fora nice/ quiet place toenjoythe sunset on the skyline,we’veprobably found THE spot for a drink, or for diner.The chestnut trees and the Main river make youforget about your stressful routine or the urban noises. Take a breather with friends,or colleagues andjust enjoythe moment. The restaurant offer a large choice of tasteful and simple food, wines and if you need it,great recommendations from the staff.
If yourplaning to stayfew days, for a get away or a business trip in Frankfurt we totally recommend this hotel. Although located outside the city center, you can however access there within 10-15mn by car from the Central station.
Select materials, a modern interior and luxuriously appointed bathrooms offer a stylish comfort.
Forget about earplugs, you won’t need it. At the Gerbermühle, the only neighbors you might haveare some little ones living in the chestnuts of the garden!
The kindness and simplicity of the the staff, the quality of the service, and the confort of the stay make you feel like staying forever!
Maybe not the first place you will think about regarding a birthday bash or corporate events, but most probably one of the best in town.
Send us an email for any request, we will be happy tohelp you organise it!
The St. Germain Spritz has become a crowd favorite at Apéros Frenchies event, and was featured as the welcome drink of choice at several of our events!
The Liqueur is crafted from elderflower blossoms harvested in late spring, making it the ideal summer drink. You all know by now however that while summer may be our favorite season, we’re hosting International Afterwork events year-round. Luckily, there’s a St. Germain cocktail for any occasion. Next time you’re at one of our events feel free to try a St. Germain Spritz! Or if you’re one of our lucky Frenchies, maybe its time you brought along a bottle of this authentic French liqueur to your next Apéro and put your twist on the welcome drink? Here a recipe to make your own St Germain Spritz; the perfect cocktail for summer!
4cl St~Germain liqueur
6cl Dry Sparkling Wine
6cl Sparkling Water
Combine all of the ingredients over ice in your favorite glass. Stir gently. Garnish with a lemon twist!
Feel free to like us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram, and subscribe to our newsletter to keep up to date with all the Apéros Frenchies events to stay in touch with all your new expat friends? We look forward to seeing you all at our next event!
Lockdown is over, even though we can’t see you at one of our events at the moment, it means hairdressers are open once again! Thank God, we don’t have to cut our hair by ourselves anymore! Apéros Frenchies’ team knows the struggles of being an expat and finding the perfect hairdresser in your city. Discover our favorite salons depending on the city you’re based in! (Frankfurt, London, Munich)
Receive 30% off your hair appointment when you mention Apéros Frenchies!
Enjoy great service from Mauricio or his team and maybe even indulge in a few extra treatments at the separate nail bar! Did you know? Any tips received at Mauricio Cuervo Hairstyling Salon are directly sent to benefit Niños Con Futuro, a foundation committed to improving the quality of life of Colombian orphan children. Consider it the gift that keeps on giving! So head on over and switch it up with a new cut or maybe even add a little color! Our very own Co-Founder Marie Anne stops by whenever she’s in town needing a fresh hairstyle, so he comes highly recommended! The perfect hairdresser in your city!
For full contact info, find his card here. We can’t wait to see your new looks!
Where to find the salon:
Kirchnerstrasse 3 Frankfurt,
+49 171 5867170
London family, if you are French, you have probably heard of the wonderful Margaux Natural Boutique Salon. Coming from a family of hairdressers, French entrepreneur Margaux Cras opened her salon in London in 2017, and since then, has become a staple for the French community. Her friendly team is always ready to give you a warm welcome in French or English!
Reason #1 why we love Margaux Salon: from hair to nails, she only works with natural products!
As an Award-Winning Natural Boutique Salon, the team carefully selects natural and organic products and brands that give you the best quality treatments. Here, you can enjoy the luxury of ultra-effective hair and nail care, without sacrificing the quality!
With services for both men and women, why not bring your man along for your next treatment? Ranging from hairstyling (including cuts, blow-dry, hair-up, wedding hairdo and hair extensions) to manicures and pedicures, there is something for everyone. Don’t just take our word for it, follow them on Instagram here to discover all of their amazing work! Be sure to keep an eye on their Instagram page, as well as ours, because a little birdie told us they might host a Giveaway Contest for a lucky customer!
Get ready for a future Kentish Town location coming soon, we can’t wait to see you there. Until then, check out the Highbury location:
Where to find the salon:
140 Blackstock Rd,
Finsbury Park, London N4 2DX,
+44 20 3952 8597
(NB: Due to covid 19 , it will re open in July)
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Munich community, this next one’s for you!
Nestled in the heart of the city, BarBier offers the best hairdressing services for you and your crew. Come enjoy pure relaxation and fresh coffee in a cozy living room atmosphere during your next service. BarBier does it all – haircuts, hair extensions or thickening, hair coloring and even barber services! With 96% natural ingredients, you can feel good about getting the treatment you want. They only work with sustainable companies with almost all of their products coming from Europe. Chic, cool and vegan all come together at this Munich salon, you simply must stop by and have a look!
Pssst…. word on the street is they offer a free beer and head or hands massages when you mention Apéros Frenchies on the day of your appointment! Isn’t it the perfect hairdresser in your city!
Where to find the salon:
80539 München, Germany
+49 89 14336833
Also, feel free to like us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram, and subscribe to our newsletter to keep up to date with all the Apéros Frenchies events. We look forward to seeing you all at our next event!
All over the world, the hospitality business is currently facing a difficult time. In France, bars & restaurants are still closed until further noticed while in Germany, they are open for take away only. Despite these partial openings, some german restaurateurs came out with great ideas to help each other. A way to support our favorite bars.
Across Germany, restaurateurs are urgently looking for ways to generate sales, despite the situation and this is how the idea of [W]eine Familie came out – an association of restaurateurs, supporting each other in collaboration with the renowned VDP winery Nik Weis .A way to support our favorite bars.
By creating their own personalized and wine bottles, they offer different type of wine to satisfy your everyday cravings. Weissburgunde, Grauburgunder, or Riesling, you can pick your favorite limited edition bottles, order them for less than 10 euros/bottle, and enjoy it while chilling at home. Isn’t it a great way to both help and enjoy?
For years, we had the chance to spend time together in these different locations, enjoying both great food & good drinks. But it was mostly about the great memories with friends or colleagues. We can’t wait to go back there together and cheers to it! Now, it’s our turn to show them that we’ve got their back.
Hey Frenchies! Have you been joining our weekly live streams over on Instagram these past couple of weeks? If not you’re missing out on some great music and masterclasses from some of our favorite partners. This week we were happy to feature Die Fromagerie in Frankfurt. Not only is it one of our teams’ favorites, it is an apéro hotspot for many of our Frankfurt Frenchies!
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Before we get into their recommendations, we’d like to thank all of you who tuned in to join us for the At Home Apéro! Special shout out to Michel.Music for keeping the live stream going with some great music, you can find his Soundcloud if you’re looking for more.
Be sure to tag @aperos_frenchies and use #shareyourapero for a chance to be featured in our Instagram story after the live broadcast.
We have fantastic news for our Frankfurt Frenchies as Die Fromagerie is still open through the ongoing situation. Everything you need to make the charcuterie board of your dreams is available to be ordered and picked up*.
*Please be advised that if you intend to stop by the store to place or pick up your order that you should follow all local health guidelines as to protective actions that must be taken. Stay Safe!
The Guide to the Perfect Charcuterie Board
We were able to have a quick chat with our Frankfurt Ambassador Alicia and Die Fromagerie Owner Alexandre Allemany. Alex was full of recommendations for us:
The first thing to consider is the Five kinds of cheese, “5 kinds of cheese are necessary to every cheese board, at a minimum, this is what you need to ensure a variety of tastes” says Alex, “Once you have this, you have a great base”.
The main key is to have a variety, from a variety of regions.
24-Month-old Comte a favorite and popular in every region of France
A smooth cheese like a brie or camembert
A Goat cheese, “Herbed from the south of France is best, and it really pulls the plate together”
Don’t forget the blue cheese, “I know some people don’t like its strong flavor, but its too delicious for me to leave off the plate!”
Don’t be afraid to experiment with local tastes! Die Fromagerie will include frischkäse for its German customers as it is a popular option all over the country.
Add something sweet to balance the flavors on your tongue, and don’t forget the extras!
Don’t be afraid to add some fruit, ” Try something in season or pick a regional favorite that pairs well with the cheeses already on the platter”
Peanuts, “They are a popular snack when drinking for a reason, but feel free to add some to the apéro”
Almonds, “Almonds are the perfect complement so feel free to add them to the plate even if they are less popular”
Olives, “Do not forget to add the olives to create a well-rounded plate!”
The Saucisson: DON’T BE CHEAP!
Rosette de Lyon, ” We have a rule here about no CHEAP SAUCISSON. This particular variety has a low fat content, and is absolutely delicious”
Jambon de Bayonne, “Is a regional favorite from the French Southwest. It is similar to the very famous Spanish aged ham, it is often sold cut very thin”
Pro-Tip: ” Feel free to experiment with specialties from each region. You know you will get a good pairing when you feature cheese and wine from a similar region, so do not be afraid to do the same when considering the meat”
You can do a regional-specific apéro, but if you do this, focus on the specific regions, “I’d recommend a Rosé from Provence, and a piece of goat cheese from the same region”
Of course don’t forget the drinks, ” Protip: Sparkling wines are also a good option to try out if you want to change up your apéro.”
Thank you again to Alicia, Alex, and the whole Die Fromagerie team for taking the time out to passing along their tips!
We are looking forward to gathering with all of you again soon, but until then be sure to keep up with us on social media! Follow us on Instagram and like us on Facebook to stay up to date on everything Apéros Frenchies. By the way, have you checked out our Apéro At Home Series yet? Catch the first article here, and be sure to subscribe now to never miss an update.
Apéros Frenchies was founded by French sisters Marie Anne and Eliz You in Frankfurt Am Main, Germany in 2015. After traveling and spending time as expats in several countries they were missing the little touches of home. So they decided to unite the French expatriate community and share their culture and culinary tastes with their new community. What better way to do this than through a casual Apéro? This is how Apéros Frenchies was born!
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Who could have known in September 2015 how quickly we would grow, and how many cities we would have the opportunity to bring the French tradition of Apéro! From our very first official Facebook event at the Westin Grand Frankfurt, we were excited to meet people who wanted to experience the French Art-de-Vivre. It was a year of firsts, from Summer Garden Parties to our Comme à la Maison event at Coco-Mat ! We even partnered with some of our favorite brands like Tara Jarmon and Ligne Roset and invited you to exclusive events.
While Frankfurt is the birthplace of Apéros Frenchies, the heart of the company will always be in France. After an expansion to Munich (2016) and a trial in Stuttgart, Apéros Frenchies came to Paris in December 2018. We knew we were creating events we would want to attend, and Paris welcomed the concept with open arms. The year was filled with beautiful locations and fun moments on rooftops and on terraces all over the city!
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Who doesn’t love unpretentious fun at some of the best venues in the city? As ex-pats ourselves, we recognized how wonderful it was to be able to meet people in a convivial atmosphere. So we knew it was the right time to expand to more cities and bring the French Art-de-Vivre with us! We took Apéros Frenchies to Bogotá, Colombia, and London, the UK in 2019 and brought all of you along with us.
As with any rapidly expanding startup we took all the experience we gained and worked hard to maintain our values. We knew we wanted Apéros Frenchies to be a place where people from anywhere could feel at home. To that end, we have always worked to introduce all of our Frenchies to the best people we know in the best places we know.
Finally, we decided to turn our website into a place where everyone could come for inside tips! We currently comb through our international afterword event cities to find places we hope you will be excited to discover.
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Apéros Frenchies organizes monthly events in 6 cities around the world: London, Paris, Frankfurt, Munich, Amsterdam, and Bogota. We’ve come a long way, but as we look towards the second half of 2020 we are excited to get back to basics!
Expect more of the same after-work events you know and love, but with more fun twists! Who knows, maybe we’ll bring back our garden parties later this year? Until then, we are excited to present you all to more small businesses in the start-up community.
As we work to get through the ongoing crisis, keep an eye on our At Home Apéro series! Start reading here, and be sure to keep up with us to catch all of our upcoming content.
We are looking forward to the time when it will be safe once again to introduce you to the best, trendiest places in your city. Until then we encourage you to join our unique community by subscribing to our newsletter, liking us on Facebook, and following us on Instagram.
Welcome to Frankfurt! Known as Europe’s banking capital, it welcomes business travelers from around the globe. Whether you are here for a short business trip or a fair, the city and the Frankfurt Marriott Hotel are ready to welcome you!
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Located just a few steps away from the world-renowned Messe Frankfurt, the hotel is the perfect place to make you fall in love with Frankfurt from above! Holding a reputation as the tallest hotel in Germany, you can enjoy an incredible view of the city skyline from your room! The Frankfurt Marriott goes beyond a traditional hotel, it is an experience you indulge in from the moment you arrive. So drop your bags, kick off your shoes, and relax…
Good news for the fitness-minded! The 1st floor offers a fitness center with a deluxe range of sports equipment for any workout. Plus, a sauna, exclusive for women, for that post-workout relaxation! Also known for its chic sports bar, Champions – Bar & Restaurant is the classy hangout for sports fans alike. Be sure to try one of their many cocktails and enjoy a diner with good vibes!
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Selected rooms include exclusive access to the new, stylish M Club Lounge… It’s the perfect place to work or catch up on your reading. The Lounge provides complimentary refreshments throughout the day. With M Club Lounge access, you can enjoy a free breakfast buffet in the morning and wine, yummy cheese & snacks in the evening. What else could you ask for.
Late bird? 5 minutes walking from the hotel, you will find another Frankfurt institution open until 4 am: Jimmy’s bar. This speak- easy transports you through time: dimmed mood lighting, leather armchairs, dark wood panelling, live piano music and cigar smoke.Welcome to the golden age. Whether you prefer chilled, freshly made cocktails, aged whisky or bubbly champagne, this also bar offers an extensive bar menu.
Photo Credit: Frankfurt Marriott Hotel & Instagram @aperos_frenchies.